DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for 12 years. Things were good in the beginning. However, many times he has let me down by not helping with bills, stress, etc. He recently lost a job, which has added to my stress because we now have a child.

When I need to go through his room, I always knock. He said, “This is my house, too, and I don’t knock.” I can’t stand his arrogant ways. I still have to pretend we are married, but I don’t feel it. He calls me “baby.

If you’re wondering if they liked my husband more, that’s not it; they still call and invite me to lunch. But for casual couples’ gatherings, I’ve become invisible. I’ve even hosted a few dinners myself,

From what you have written, it appears that while your “old work friend” may be unhappy in his marriage, he has NO plans to divorce his wife although he would like you to dump your husband, uproot your and your child’s lives and be more geographically convenient -- for HIM.

I have been communicating with an old work friend who makes me feel like we would be great together. He’s married, too, but we are both unhappy in our marriages. He wants me to relocate and be with him,

"Do I stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of my child, or divorce and relocate, hoping everything will work out?"

He has admitted he’s unhappy, but he never mentions he wants a divorce. He has said only that he wants us to be together.

Do I stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of my child, or divorce and relocate, hoping everything will work out? Please help me to settle my mind, heart and thoughts. -- TROUBLED IN TEXAS DEAR TROUBLED: From what you have written,